Hello everybody.  This is my first post.  I hope you enjoy it.

I just finished watching Friday Night Lights.  It was a captivating message about real life struggles of a family.  A 15 year old girl, wanting to have sex because she believes she has to go to the next level in her relationship with her boyfriend.  Her parents had found out by chance and were now dealing with the drama and fear that their innocent child is no longer going to be innocent.  She was going to cross the barrier that they had hoped she would wait until later.  Preferably when she becomes married.   Her mom talked to her when she found out and gave her reasons to not have sex and wait.  
    This is where I believe the struggle exists.  In the reason.  Sex yes or sex no?  Everywhere you look people are talking about the joys of sex.  Yes it is!  Thank God.  But if we want to encourage our kids to wait,  can we give a worthy enough reason to answer the question why.   All they hear is the reasons to do it.  I think we need to make it clear the reasons why to wait.  You might get a sexually transmitted disease, or become pregnant are not good enough reasons in my opinion.  I have a few suggestions.  For the ladies...
    If you are a girl and you believe that you need to sleep with your boyfriend to show him you love him,  you just killed your relationship.  A boy is not going to care for you more.  He is just going to use you.  You will be a desire of his body but not his heart.  Desires of the body will fade but his heart will not.  God made you to use your beauty (in and out) to captivate his heart.  Your relationship will fail and you will carry emotional scares of a women who has been used and abandoned.  You are going to be angry at him and eventually most men. All because YOU allowed yourself to be used.  Your future husband will suffer and so will your children.  Why?  Because you allowed yourself to be used.  You might say.  "That is not true."  Ok.  Go ahead and join the ranks of unhappy unsatisfied divorced women.  Just remember, you chose this life.  It is your fault.  As a women, you set the game rules.  If you date a guy who can not play by the rules.  Time to find another boyfriend.   You will not find a disappointed women who waited for the right man and marriage to have sex.  You will find millions who did not wait and are hurt.  With a girl, it is about the heart.  For a guy it is about satisfying the body.  Until you find that right one, your not going to have the experience you desire.   Sex connects you and the person.  Along with sexually transmitted diseases, there are spiritually transmitted diseases.  You become one flesh with everyone you sleep with.  All the bad traits will come upon you.  If that person battles with depression and suicide, you will begin to have those thoughts.  My best advice is to wait and believe God that your reward will be worth it.  If you have high expectation, you are bound to hit them.  
    The young girl in the show waited, because she had great parents who loved her and a boyfriend that cares about her and not just after her body.  I encourage all the young girls out there to wait.  Do not accept the pressures of society.  Be a rebel! Be a revelationist!  Wait till marriage..thats all I have to say.